Parenting Style
Gone are the days of being an “authoritarian” or “permissive” parent here in the United States.
So what are these four parenting styles – and can you really be defined by one parenting style,
The types
The survey says the four new categories that define American parents are “The Faithful,” “Engaged Progressives,” “The Detached” and the “American Dreamers.”
1. ‘The Faithful Parent’
The Faithful Parent, which the study says makes up 20 percent of the nation’s moms and dads, stick to their religious morality – and parent based on those teachings.
Their daily rituals with prayer at mealtime, for example, and talking to their kids about religion are “consistent with their understanding that ‘raising children to reflect God’s will and purpose’ is the most important goal of parenting,” the study says.
About three-quarters of these parents say this strong sense of faith “is more important than their children’s eventual happiness and positive feelings about themselves” – or even “whether their children become successful in their careers.”
2. Engaged Progressives
Twenty-one percent of American parents fall under this category, the study says, which centers on learning responsibility and making choices with little emphasis on religion as guidance.
“Six of every 10 Engaged Progressives (59 percent) turn either to their own personal experience or to what ‘feels right’ to them personally,” the study found. Additionally the study notes that “over half (55 percent) believe that ‘as long as we don’t hurt others, we should all just live however we want.’”
This group tends to emphasize honesty, and they are generally optimistic about the world.
3. The Detached
These hands-off parents’ approach “is to let kids be kids and let the cards fall where they may,” the study says. These parents, who make up 19 percent of the nation’s total, are “more likely to quietly muse, ‘nothing ventured, nothing lost,’” the study notes.
“Laissez-faire parenting, for them, is a natural response to a generalized lack of certainty and a weak sense of parental efficacy.”
The study found that few detached parents are happy in their marriage, and about half of them spend less than two hours a day talking or spending time with their kids.
4. The American Dreamer
Most parents, amounting to 27 percent, are American Dreamers, the study found. They tend to be optimistic about their children’s opportunities and schooling.
“Insofar as their children are concerned, they hope for much and invest even more, pouring themselves fully into their families’ futures,” the study says.
Parents in this group tend to share their emotions with their children, and are likely to hope they’ll one day be “best friends” with their adult kids, the study says.